Writing out the details of our love story was actually such a nice project to work on back then because it gave me a focused goal for babysitter/"me" time when I was feeling deeply overwhelmed with parenting two little ones. It also made me feel much more smitten with my husband during a time when it's really easy to get irritated with your partner.
These days we are seasoned enough as parents that we can happily joke about how grumpy we are or about maintaining separate bedrooms for over six months when Lily was born. We know enough about ourselves and what a new baby means that we can roll with it. And happily, I am now back in my marital bed. Which is usually a bed containing a total of four citizens by morning. Thankfully, I know these citizens well and they are generally welcome(ish) to wander into our room in the night.
So back to October 18. Both Raj and I feel so much nostalgia every fall and the anniversary of our first date often feels more important or at least more obvious than our wedding date. I'm assuming if we lived on the beach then I would feel more nostalgic every December 8. But as it stands, our snowy anniversaries are more about staying inside than frolicking on the beach. Maybe our 10 year wedding anniversary in 2017 will somehow involve a beach trip?
I have been a little surprised by marriage or by Raj himself, I guess. I love the fact that we continue to not get bored of each other. How is that possible? We also continue to annoy each other to great heights, but at the same time we have learned to give each other a wide berth when it comes to our faults. If the other is being a super grump then we will take it upon ourselves to send that person away for some time alone to get themselves back to happy, even though that means taking on more work for ourselves. We look out for each other and support each other and can comfortably disagree. We still laugh a lot and entertain each other. He's still gorgeous to me. I feel lucky to have someone who gets me and not only that, loves that I'm me. High five, Raj.
I looked through all my pictures and pulled one from each year together. 10 pictures for the 10 years of us.
|Citlalli Rico Photography|
|Milissa Sprecher Photography|
|JP Ramler Photography|
And because I looked through all the photos that we have, I found a couple old-school ones of Raj's that I had scanned in. How crazy cute is young Raj? Makes me wonder what Oliver will look like as he gets older since he strongly resembles Raj.
PS - One time I casually referred to going to a tapas bar on our first date when I was eating a meal with my eating disorder clients. And they all heard that I had gone to a topless bar for my first date. It took several minutes before clarification was reached by all. Lulz.