Sunday, January 31, 2010

Exercise Check In

Last Sunday I blogged about my exercise goals for the week. I didn't do as well as I'd hoped. I was on track until Friday morning, when I woke up with bad sore throat. Interestingly, this sore throat didn't stop me from having a glass of wine that night nor did it stop me from having a beer on a date with Husband on Saturday. So...I wasn't THAT sick. And then today when I went to put the Shred into the DVD player, I discovered I had shipped it back to Netflix by accident. (Good one, subconscious!) So that got me distracted for a bit and then I was going to do a different exercise DVD, but Chicken randomly decided to skip her afternoon nap and of course I got busy with other stuff and...I didn't exercise today either. All excuses, because I COULD have exercised. I irritate myself. Sigh.

Because I am nothing if not honest, here is the summary of what I did last week:
  • Shredded 3 times
  • Walked on treadmill 1 time
What I learned: I'm going to set my exercise goals a little lower so that I can feel good about achieving or exceeding them. Also - I need to save my days off for weekends as I'm far more likely to skip workouts then. Can I say how much I long for the spring and summer when I will naturally want to go for a four mile stroll outside and this won't all feel like so much work? I have the ennui real bad.

Next weeks goals:
  • Shred-like video 4 times (I have to buy a new copy as mine is lost to Netflix forever)
  • Walk on treadmill 3 times
I can do it! Just gotta put my back into it.

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Letters to Bella: 8 Months

Hi there, my baby,


Today
Yesterday Uh, make that three days ago you turned eight months old.

Like most of the months in your life, you changed so much. You went from a very creative downward-dog-style of crawling...

to a proper little baby crawl in a matter of weeks (not that you don't still throw a downward dog in there now and again).

You have also figured out new and clever ways to play with your toys. I cannot tell you how proud I was of you when you learned how to press the lever on your aquarium to make the little starfish spin.

Now I set you on the floor and you'll crawl right over there and spin the starfish to your heart's content. For the record, it takes a lot of spins to make your heart content.

You've also started to pull yourself up and climb on things. I'm your favorite object to climb, but you also enjoy climbing up your daddy, the occasional piece of furniture, and most recently - the stairs.


On the eating front, you've made great strides as well. You can hold your sippy cup like a pro

and you love to grab the spoon when I'm feeding you. While I appreciate your enthusiasm for feeding yourself, it's a bit problematic. Well, maybe it is only considered problematic if having carrots smeared across your face and up your nose is a bad thing.

You continue to stretch out and that belly of yours is a bit less Buddha-y. The other day I was holding your arms above your head, telling you that you are, "Soooo big!", when I noticed that your hands can touch when raised above your head. They couldn't touch for the longest time and I thought it was the funniest thing because I imagined just how big my head would have to be if I couldn't get my arms to touch. Anyway, it seems you are slowly losing the baby shape. Luckily, you still have plenty of chub left to squeeze. Those thighs!

I think I can finally go ahead and say with some confidence that your eyes are blue with greenish-hazel centers. Quite pretty.
One last exciting area of change is your talking. You babble much more frequently, which is so darn cute to listen to. We have little conversations with you now, where you'll say "bah" and I'll reply with a "dah" and you'll exclaim "ah!" back and I'll respond with a "gah". We can (and do) go on like that for a long time. You are also dabbling in speaking dolphin and have mastered the tongue click quite well in recent days.

Oh! And teeth. How could I forget about those. You are now the proud owner of a top front tooth and the other top front tooth will be joining his bucky partner very soon. I was about to write something about you being toothsome, but that would be pretty much like saying you are al dente, which would be awkward. But come to think of it, you really are a little al dente and toothsome. Nom nom.

Love you always,
Mama

P.S. - Outtakes from the photo shoot.



Thursday, January 28, 2010

What Does Your Baby Do All Day?

Inquiring minds want to know - just what is your baby up to during his or her waking hours? I find that I wish I had more knowledge of early childhood education because I think I might be falling short on keeping Bella stimulated and learning. It's unfortunate that having read the entire Baby Sitter's Club series multiple times isn't quite enough (or should I just put together a Kid Kit and call it a day?). I'm especially curious to hear what babies do at daycare as I'm sure they do a lot of interesting games and activities there that I can replicate at home.

Here are some of the things that Husband and I currently do with Bella:
  • Read books about 3 times a day (maybe 10-15 board books a day?)
  • Play with her toys, both independently and together
  • "Sensory Walk" around the house - the window feels cold, the cat feels soft, the cinnamon smells spicy, etc.
  • Baby exercises - 20 minutes in her jumperoo, stretches, Baby Yoga (haven't gone in a while due to the crawling classes not working with our schedule), will sign up for swimming class that starts in March
  • Sing songs - Itsy, Bitsy Spider, Row Your Boat, etc.
  • Dance to music (check out the toddler station on Pandora.com)
  • Practice crawling, assisted standing, assisted walking
  • Leave the house almost daily (Library, Grocery store, Target, Conservatory, etc.)
  • Hang out in front of the mirrored closet doors admiring the pretty baby we see
  • Chill out and snuggle
  • Be silly - throwing her pants up in the air is a special favorite, make faces, funny noises, etc.
  • Observe Mama Time - Bella chills in the Ergo carrier while I cook and clean
Once spring is here I think I won't have as hard of a time filling the hours as there will be tons to explore outside. But since we are in Minn-e-soooota, we still have two to three months of winter left (weep).

Now won't you be a lovely and post something in the comments about what you do with your baby during playtime? Or what your baby does at daycare? It's for the good of the future. Think of the children!

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

A Day in the Life

3:00 AM - A burst of crying wakes me up. Noooo... Oh wait, she's done. Good, I can go back to sleep.

3:30 AM - I am still awake.

4:20 AM - Still awake. Boo hiss!

5:00 AM - I wake up (and therefore must have fallen asleep at some point) to hear cooing coming from the monitor. I get up, feed Bella and place her back in the crib, hoping to hit the baby snooze button.

5:05 AM - Baby snooze button worked! I go back to sleep.

5:40 AM - Bella is up for real. Aw, isn't she cute in the morning? Notice the underbite she's been sporting these days.

5:45 AM - Nurse Bella to a chorus of cats crying for food. The blind cat takes the soprano part and gets on my last nerve, which isn't exactly easy to do seeing as it's not even 6 AM yet. Change B's diaper, take her sleeping gown off, head downstairs.

6:00 AM - Stick Bella in her jumperoo as I run downstairs to feed the frantic cats. Blind cat continues to drive me nuts: I'm dying! I only weigh 16 pounds! FEEEED ME!

6:05 AM - Move Bella to her high chair where she sits with a couple toys while I eat breakfast. Pick up her toys 85 times in the 10 minutes it takes me to eat a bowl of cereal and check my email.

6:15 AM - Play time upstairs. Think to myself for the hundredth time that I should write a blog post asking what other mamas do with their kids all day or what their kids do at daycare, as I wonder if I'm not doing enough to stimulate her. Like maybe I should be doing more row-your-boating or peek-a-booing or something uber educational.


6:16 AM - Promptly forget about writing that post.

6:55 AM - Happily playing baby quickly morphs into grunting fussy baby. Time for a nap.


6:55 and 30 seconds AM - Debate NOT taking a nap with her. But I'm so sleeeeepy...and Husband is still sleeping like a baby (uh...make that a teenager) so it's only fair, right? I nurse Bella (and I) to sleep in the bed in the nursery.

8:45 AM - Bella wakes up and I am shocked to see that we were sleeping for almost two hours. Really? But I'm so tired. We lounge in the bed for a bit.

8:50 AM - Experience a diaper change that is similar to wrestling an alligator, so once I'm through I let her lounge on the floor for a bit sans clothing. Bella is not a fan of clothing.

9:00 AM - Ummmm...does my baby's nose look a little orange to you? Ruh roh.


9:20 AM - Get her dressed for the day (i.e. more alligator wrestling) and then we head downstairs to feed Bella her first solid meal of the day.

9:35 AM - Attempt to check email and other internet stuff while Bella sits in her high chair. She is having none of it. Pay attention to meeeeee!

9:45 AM - Head back upstairs and stick Bella on my bedroom floor as I change into workout clothes and two industrial strength sports bras. Exercise time.

10:00 AM - Everyone jumps: Bella in her jumperoo and me on the living room floor doing the Shred. I gargle my heart, just like Jillian wants me to.


10:20 AM - Move the suddenly fussy Bella from the jumperoo to the swing and keep exercising.

10:27 AM - Really, Jillian, calling the Shred 20 minutes? It's 27 minutes. My DVD player wouldn't lie.

10:30 - Change Bella again and this time the alligator that I'm wrestling gets pee all over the changing pad and her outfit. Must change her clothes, however, due to a clean laundry shortage (which is a fancy way of saying I was lazy over the weekend), she must now wear her too-small pjs the rest of the day. That's the brakes, kid.

10:40 - Shower quickly while Bella hangs out in her bouncer with a couple toys.

11:00 - Read some stories, nurse her, put her down for a nap.

11:30 - She's finally napping. Lunch break! Throw in a load of cloth diaper laundry, heat up soup, unload dishwasher, and play on my computer while eating.

12:20 - Lunch break over; time for more cleaning. I Mary Poppins the living room. Snap!

12:45 - I start to clean the bedroom, but Bella wakes up after I've only had a few minutes to straighten up. This is one of the peskier things about having a baby. You start a project only to be interrupted a few minutes later.

12:50 - Diaper change. I give up on wrestling her feet and legs back into her pjs.

12:45 PM - More play time. Think again that I should write that blog post asking others what their babies do all day.

12:46 PM - Promptly forget about writing that post.

1:00 PM - Work on standing skillz. Look! She can stand with just one hand supporting her (for about 5 seconds, that is). Have no fear: No babies were harmed in the taking of these photos. I have mama ninja skills that allows me to catch her real quick-like.

2:00 PM - Go to the expensive grocery store in neighborhood as we are in the midst of a snow storm and I don't feel like dealing with the highways. Everyone either admires Bella or gives me a look like I'm a freak that brings my teddy bear to the grocery store.

2:30 - As we check out at the grocery store, the young male clerk says "Bye-bye!" to Bella. Since I've been working on bye-bye with Bella, I automatically say, "Bye-bye!" back to the clerk in a high pitched voice. He gives me a funny look. I give myself a funny look. Awkwardness fills the air.

2:45 - Get home. Change Bella and make a half effort to get her too-small pajamas back on. Seriously - what happened to my easy-to-change baby? More playtime. Stuff inserts into clean cloth diapers on floor of bedroom. Read to Bella.


3:15 PM - Nurse Bella and put her down for her nap. Put on the TV in the bedroom as TV is very exciting to me during the day (We are one of those slightly creepy families that won't let Bella watch TV until she is 2.) Continue to fold clothes and clean the room up.

4:15 PM - Bella wakes from her nap (Nooooo - now I have to miss final Jeopardy). I throw a few toys into the emptied laundry basket creating a thrilling game to keep her occupied so that I can finish folding laundry/cleaning up the bedroom.


5:00 PM - Husband/Daddy's home! Work on turning the baby's nose orange for real.


5:30 PM - More book learnin' for the babe while I make dinner.


6:00 PM - Leave dinner simmering on the stove (Hungarian Lentil Stew thing that Husband loves) and the whole family heads upstairs to play.

6:15 - NAKED TIME! This marks the start of the bedtime routine.


6:30 PM - Bath Time

6:40 - Finish up bedtime routine. Dry off, diaper, pjs, sleeper gown, nurse, sing "You are my Sunshine" with Husband (all 3 verses; we are thorough), a kiss & an I love you and turn on the sound machine. Sweet dreams, little one.


7:00 PM - PAR-TAY! Or really, eat ultra-hearty stew with bread & water. So not a party at all, unless your idea of a party includes a lot of fiber.

7:20 PM - Start to clean the kitchen, but have Husband tell me to, "Relax. Now is the time to relax." I think he really believes in dish fairies. Nonetheless, I drop the sponge and we sit on the couch together with our computers and half watch HGTV. You know, some of that high quality time together to keep the marriage alive. Heh.

9:00 PM - Head up to bed where we eat cookies. I love eating cookies in bed. And no, this is not a euphemism for sex. Don't be pervy. There really were cookies.

9:15 PM - Husband yells at me for being messy and dropping crumbs in the bed. Whatevs. He knew what he was getting into when he married me.

9:20 PM - I tiptoe into Bella's room to check on her. Sleeping soundly. I finish getting ready for bed.

9:30 PM - Reading time.

10:15 PM - Husband and I sing "You are My Sunshine" to each other (OMG, NO WE MOST CERTAINLY DO NOT), then we turn the lights out and go to sleep. Ahhhh...blissful sleep.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Teething Idea/Laura is Crazy

Bella is getting her top front teeth and has been wanting to chew on things more lately. We stuck some apple pieces in her mesh feeder yesterday and she went to town. Below is a video of her enjoying a mid-afternoon apple snack.

I, as always, am full of the crazy in this video. We call the mesh feeder a meshie and, to tell you the truth, I honestly thought that was the correct name for it until I googled it a second ago. Oops. OK, so there is that. There is also the fact that I am randomly yelling out "Maine Coon!" and "Ooga Booga". Bella normally laughs at these things, but she chose this opportunity to make me look like a lunatic by not responding. Too busy with her apples, I guess.

video

Learning to Crawl

Here are a few clips of Bella learning how to crawl over the past few weeks. Adorably awkward, if I do say so myself.

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Sunday, January 24, 2010

Propogating the Species

I'm ready to have another baby. I want to be pregnant again. Like now. RIGHT NOW.

Help?

What is this drive in me to go forth and multiply? I feel quite busy and consumed with Bella, so how is it that I think that two kids under two years would be a good idea? Plus, the thought of not being able to be 100% devoted to my darling baby by having to spread my attention between two kids makes me want to cry a little bit. And, really, what is up with the desire to be pregnant? I didn't like being pregnant that much. Being pregnant meant throwing up or being in a state of high-alert for throwing up for months. MONTHS. It meant peeing myself a little bit on occasion, sometimes coupled with the throwing up. Why, oh why, do I desire to pee myself whilst vomiting once more? And what about the feeling of being stuck in one of those sumo-wrestling suits. That was terrible. Oh, and I was so hot and sweaty sometimes, especially at night. And the reflux! Gah, disgusting. And let's not forget my insatiable need for Raisin Nut Bran, cartons of strawberries and dessert. I don't think our grocery bill could handle that. Not to mention the endless fear of miscarriage/something being wrong with the baby. And the exhaustion. And not getting to eat sushi or drink wine again for 9-10 months - oh my God, I don't think I could handle that. And yet...

I've started looking at message boards that address getting pregnant. I've been thinking seriously about what it would be like to have two children in the near-ish future (in a word: scary). I starting looking into a birth center that is opening in the Twin Cities. I am about to dig out my basal thermometer to start fertility charting now that Bella is allowing me to sleep for hours (!!) in a row. I may have noticed some other secondary signs of fertility and got excited, but that would be too much information. (Except, when has TMI stopped me in the past? For those of you in the know about these things, I have to tell you: Egg whites.*)

So what is this? Why this drive to make babies when, really, it's too still too soon for us? Why am I so excited at the thought of a little tiny baby when I've only just now begun to get decent sleep? What if having babies is addictive? Am I headed down Duggar road? Quick, U-turn!

All I can say for sure is that at some point the sign outside my womb changed from "No Vacancy" to "Vacancy". I officially have the fever.

*If you really want to know what I'm talking about (and do you? do you really want to know? cause I'm not so sure you do...) read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler.

Exercise Update

For the sake of accountability:

In the past four days, I did the Shred for three of them (Level 1 once and Level 2 twice). I am not doing anything today because...um, I'm sleepy? Lazy? Too sore? Eating cheese?

Actually, a big part of the problem with today was that I didn't figure out WHEN I was going to exercise. I know myself well enough to know that I need to do it earlier in the day, before 3 pm, and I need to have a specific time for working out. No more pretending I'll work out at 7:30 pm when I'm hungry and exhausted.

Now onto next weeks goals. Next week, I will
  • Do the Shred 6 times
  • Walk on the treadmill 4 times for a minimum of 30 minutes
Must baby step my way back to regular exercise. Inertia's a bitch.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Thursday Confessions

  • I haven't exercised in over a month. Which is just HORRIBLE. Horrible and not like me. No wonder I feel absolutely exhausted. Husband and I were doing great at the start of December - we did the Shred everyday for 10 days. And then I took a day off. And the next day Husband and I convinced ourselves to take another day off. And then...we slipped down a slippery slope that landed us with a plop on the couch. To remedy this situation I did the Shred this morning and plan to do it every day until we leave for California. I would also like to start walking on the treadmill 30+ minutes each day (How I miss you outside walks!). I will check back on here with whether I did this, so I better do it. Help hold me accountable.
  • Speaking of accountability - I have still napped the past two mornings, despite saying I wouldn't in a comment on my last post. I am a liar liar pants on fire! In my defense, the baby woke up the past two nights at 3 AM and I justified said napping because of it. Plus, these naps generally take place at 7 AM. Does it really count as napping when it's that early? In related news, now that I eat breakfast at 5 AM most days, I am ready for lunch at 10 AM. So I eat it then. I like to live on the wild side like that.
  • Today I went back to the Conservatory for a warm weather fix and I noticed the sloth in the tropical room was sleeping in the exact same spot that she was sleeping last week. I asked one of the workers if all the sloth did was sleep. He responded, "Yes. That's pretty much what sloths do." Oops. Common animal knowledge fail #453.
  • And now a juicy confession. I stumbled upon my ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend's profile on Facebook yesterday so I clicked over to look at her pictures. She wasn't just any old girlfriend, she was the other woman. The one that was living with him days after he broke it off with me by email. [Awesome dumpage email, by the way. Went something like: "I think we should take a break. Possibly indefinitely."] Even though this all happened a long time ago, I have to confess I'm still a little curious about her. Not because I'm sad or jealous or something, like I was at the beginning. It's more that I'm just...oddly fascinated. Also? I am so very glad all that shiz went down as it led me to Husband. God Bless the Broken Road and all that, you know?

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Sleep, Interrupted

I quit doing all sleep training with Bella starting with our trip to Florida in November. Surprisingly, she did OK and was only waking up 2-3 times each night. I would go to her, feed her for a couple minutes, put her back down in the crib and she would sleep a few more hours. I thought about resuming sleep training, but it seemed like I would be doing it for selfish reasons. It wasn't the same as initiating sleep training at four months when she was waking 7-10 times a night and getting herself so sleep deprived. And lord knows, I had enough guilt sleep training her then, when it was for her benefit. In addition to feeling selfish at the thought about sleep training, there were other things going on that made sleep training less than ideal: visitors over the holidays, getting her first two teeth, and a cold.

Then starting about four weeks ago, Bella kept doing her 2-3 wake ups a night, but was no longer going right back to sleep. She would fuss and start crying and I would have to go back in there. I was getting out of bed around 6 times a night and since I wasn't able to fall asleep until midnight (my own sleep is all sorts of messed up) and she was waking up around 5:30 or 6 am, this meant I was getting out of bed 6 times in 6 hours. Sleep training started looking like less of a selfish thing and more of a life preserver.

I took my time figuring out exactly what sleep training method I wanted to use since I wanted something that I would be comfortable with for a long time, and the full crying it out method was not going to fit the bill. I had already read these books, which address sleep:
  • Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, MD
  • The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
  • Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Richard Ferber, MD
  • The Sleepeasy Solution by Jennifer Waldburger and Jill Spivack
  • The Baby Book by William Sears, MD and Martha Sears, RN
  • On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep by Gary Ezzo
  • Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg
There were probably a couple more along the way, but my memory isn't the sharpest these days. I took advantage of my speed reading abilities and re-read the first three books in that list. I mulled over all the different sleep training methods and finally decided that a Ferber type approach was going to be the best for me. I could go in there, check on her, and physically touch her, but also give her some space to figure out how to put herself back to sleep.

That brings us to now. Bella has been successfully Ferberized and it was less painful than I expected. I have weaned her of night feedings and during that process I never leaked or had full boobs in the morning, which speaks to the fact that she wasn't eating out of hunger at night. A side benefit of Ferberizing is that she now goes down for her naps quite easily. Bonus!

But guess what? Now that she sleeps through the night, she has decided that wake up time is 4:45 AM. Sometimes 4:20, occasionally 5:00, but always way too freaking early. I've tried feeding her and putting her back in her crib on several mornings, but no dice. She is up and acting like she needs to get to her 6:00 AM shift at Starbucks or something. GAH. We are starting to put her down a little later than her current bedtime of 6:30 pm to hopefully push the wake up time back to a reasonable hour.

In spite of the early wake-up call, I should be feeling pretty good now, right? Since I'm sleeping more and not getting out of bed a zillion times a night, I should feel like a million bucks! Well, no. People, I'm so tired. The bags under my eyes have developed their own bags and I'll never be able to afford all the fees at the airport in a few weeks given this excess baggage.

Pre-baby I slept 9-10 hours a night. Every night. More on the weekends or if I was sick. I took naps in addition to all that sleep. I have never stayed up all night long (outside of being on a plane to India). Sleep and I have always been real tight, yo. But now...ay me. Most days lately I feel like I was hit by a Mack truck. I take a nap with Bella each morning, but that hour/hour and a half isn't enough to make me feel whole. And can I say that I realize that working moms/stay-at-home moms with multiple children are not able to nap and I really wonder how you all do it? (Seriously - how do you do it?) I'm going to try putting myself to bed at 9 pm most days this week to see if I can sleep train myself into falling asleep before 11:30 pm or midnight and then I can get a straight 6-8 hours. We'll see.

Finally, just as a reminder and so that you can feel really sorry for me, I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO HAVE CAFFEINE THIS WHOLE TIME. Think of me the next time you are savoring that heavenly cup of regular coffee or exquisite Diet Mountain Dew. Appreciate your caffeine, people. That's all I'm saying. Take the time to do something a little special for caffeine. A card? Roses? Chocolates? That's up to you. Just make sure you tell it you love it.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Cloth Diapering 101

This post was originally published in January 2010, but has been updated as of March 2011.

Cloth diapering can seem like a woefully complicated and confusing endeavor, especially because there are soooo many options these days. These aren't your mama's cloth diapers, that's for sure. I thought I would put together some information about how I came to be a cloth diapering mama in the event that one of you might find it helpful. The rest of you will fall over from the boredom.

Should you want even more detail than what I'm about to give, here are my sources of information. As I began to figure out my cloth diapering plan, I got most of my information from Pinstripes and Polkadots, as they cover all aspects of cloth diapering. I also found Jill's cloth diapering posts at Baby Rabies very useful in picking out what diapers to use. Another good source of information for me was lurking on The Eco-Friendly Family Message Board on The Bump. I'm sure there are tons of other great sources, but these sites told me everything I needed to know.

Now let me bombard you with information. Ready? Deep breath and let's begin!

Why Should I Cloth Diaper?
I could do a lengthy separate post on why we cloth diaper, but for now I'll just sum it up with the following three reasons: better for the environment, I wanted to avoid exposing my baby's skin to the chemicals and perfumes in disposable diapers, and the cost savings - especially since will have more than one child. Jill at Baby Rabies goes into detail about all of these points here. A few smaller incentives to cloth diaper include the fact that cloth-diapered babies tend to potty train sooner, cloth diapers are cuter than disposables and I NEVER experience blow-outs with cloth diapers as compared to the frequent blow-outs with disposables. No poop all over your baby's back and clothes? That's a pretty big plus right there.

How Do I Choose My Cloth Diapers?
This is probably the most overwhelming part of cloth diapering and it only gets more confusing as the market for cloth diapers grows and grows. You can cloth diaper very inexpensively using pre-folds and covers or, on the other end of the spectrum, you can spend a ton of money on crazy cute diapers $30 a pop. There are so many types of diapers - pockets, all-in-ones, fitteds, contours, organic...a lot to choose from. It is generally recommended that you have 24-36 diapers in your collection or enough to be able to do laundry every two to three days.

Here is what we did:
Newborn Stage - Since most cloth diapers (especially the adjustable one-size variety) don't fit newborn's tiny bodies very well, we opted to rent the Kissaluvs Size O Rental Set from Sunshine Diapers as recommended by Jill at Baby Rabies. Sadly, this rental set no longer exists with Sunshine Diapers, but I did find a similar Kissaluvs rental option here at Nell's Natural Baby.  At $100 for 3 months you are going to be breaking even, if not saving money as compared to purchasing disposables. You could also purchase a used set of Kissaluvs Size 0 online and re-sell when you are finished and would likely reclaim much of your investment. We rented instead of buying because I didn't want to invest money in diapers that (1) are only needed a short time and (2) I might not even like. The Kissaluvs require a diaper cover and we had six in total in the two smallest sizes - a mix of Proraps and Thirsties. The Kissaluvs size 0 fit Bella until she was around 9 or 10 weeks old, but they would fit most other babies longer as Bella was of the lovely jumbo-sized variety.

Speaking of Bella, here she is modeling the Thirsties diaper covers over the Kissaluvs fitted diapers.



Baby-to-Toddler Stage
Since all babies are shaped a little different, I strongly recommend trying several different kinds to see what works best. How do you do this? Why, with the fabulous 10-Day test kit offered at Jillian's Drawers. It gives you a chance to try several diapers for a short period of time for a small fee. I decided that the one-size bumGenius was the best fit for us.



They are put on just like a disposable diaper and have a middle-of-the-road price at $17.95 apiece. Since these are adjustable diapers they should fit through potty training, which was cheaper than buying multiple sizes of fitted diapers. One-size bumGenius diapers are a pocket diaper, which means they have inserts that are removed for washing. While BumGenius claims to fit babies starting at 6 lbs, know that the fit on a 6-10 lb baby wouldn't be so great. I prefer the velcro for ease of putting them on, but I know many moms feel that snaps are the way to go. BumGenius diapers have been upgraded since we purchased our set and the bumGenius 4.0s comes in both options.

So far I've been pleased with them, although the velcro does get a bit worn in time. If you find your velcro has lost it's stick, bumGenius has a one year warranty so you can send in diapers to get the velcro repaired. One trick I picked up along the way was to fold the velcro tabs like this prior to washing them. It has kept my velcro tabs in tip-top condition.
Another problem I encountered with the diapers was the occasional stink issue - however, this can occur with any kind of diaper and is not specific to bumGenius. I followed the recommendations on the bumGenius website and it fixed the problem.
Overall, I would give bumGenius diapers a B+. Now Bella will model her bumGenius diapers for you.
There are also two other cloth diapers in our collection. We have a couple of Fuzzi Bunz pocket diapers in and those are good, too. They have snap closures, which is good and bad. The snaps might make these diapers last longer, but the snaps can be hard to get on a wriggly toddler . These diapers are also a little smaller than bumGenius and are nearly too small for Bella now that she is approaching 2 years. I give FuzziBunz diapers a B. The other diapers we have are three Organic bumGenius one-size diapers. I purchased them on clearance for $10 apiece, but they normally retail for a spendy $24.95. I'm not crazy about these diapers. They are less absorbent and leak more and take longer to dry. Plus, it's my own personal preference to like velcro more and they are snaps. On the plus side, they are a sleeker fit than regular bumGenius diapers and they don't require stuffing of inserts. I give these diapers a C.

Inserts - As your baby grows into a toddler, you might want to consider picking up some heavy-duty inserts to supplement the other inserts that came with your diapers in order to boost absorbency. I love our sleek, but super absorbent Hemp Babies inserts. I like to use at least one in every diaper and they are a relatively reasonable $3 per insert.
What do you do at nighttime?
When Bella was younger (less than 10 months or so), we found stuffing the pocket diapers with two bumGenius inserts (the ones that came with the diapers) was enough absorbency to last her through the night. As she grew older and would pee more, we started having problems. I tried a lot of things to make night cloth diapering work and the closest we came to success was putting two large Bum Genius inserts along with two Hemp Babies inserts into the diaper and then adding one more Hemp Babies insert folded in half into the front of the diaper.  Bella's GIGANTIC butt was a sight to behold in that get-up, but it kept her dry all night.  However, it was a little too fussy and bulky so we decided to go with disposables at night. I'm mostly okay with this.  When I feel the need to be more eco-friendly/low-chemical, I go with a "whole wheat diaper" (as Husband likes to call them) and use either Earth's Best chlorine-free diapers or Seventh Generation chlorine-free diapers.  But the truth is most of the time I go with the Target brand. Please chime in with a comment if you found something effective for cloth diapering at night!

I don't have a lot of money, but I'd prefer not to use the old-fashioned pre-fold diapers. Any ideas?

First, pre-folds are not as scary as they might seem at first. Here is tutorial on how to fold them and you should also consider using Snappis, which are the modern day equivalent to diaper pins. Still don't want to use pre-folds? You might want to consider buying used cloth diapers at a fraction of the retail price. A couple good sites are Diaper Swappers and Craigslist. I debated buying used diapers, but I figure we'll need them for 2-4 children, so might as well get them new so they will last. And now I look at that last sentence and am thinking, 4 children!? Really?

What exactly do I need in order to cloth diaper effectively?
Bella agreed to model some of the accessories. From left to right are cloth wipes, diaper liner roll, and small wet bag.


OK, I have those things. Now what?
We use a dry pail system which means that used diapers are placed in the pail and then the bag and diapers get washed every 2-3 days. I personally recommend washing every 2 days rather than 3 to limit stink issues.


Wet diapers can go directly into the pail, but poo diapers may require an extra step. If your baby is exclusively breastfed, then you can pass go, collect $200 and put the poo diaper directly in the pail as breastmilk poo is water soluble (and now you know one of the more selfish reasons I waited until 6 months to introduce solids). If your baby is formula fed or has started on solids, then you will need to get rid that poo before you put the diaper in the pail. The next question will deal with the specifics of poo removal. One laundry tip - I like to pull out the inserts and get the velcro tabs stuck together to one side immediately after each diaper change rather than wait until laundry day to avoid the noxious ammonia fumes.

When you are ready to wash, place the wet bag and diapers into the washing machine (first pulling out inserts if you have pocket diapers) and do an initial cold rinse to remove any remaining solids. Then comes a hot wash with a small scoop of cloth-diaper friendly detergent (~1 Tbsp in my front loader). It will not feel like enough detergent and this will frighten you. It's OK, really. Too much detergent (or a non-cloth diaper friendly detergent) will cause buildup, which keeps your diapers from absorbing properly and makes then stinky. So a wee amount of detergent it is. Finally, you do one more cold wash to get the diapers fully rinsed.

As far as drying, drying on a line outside is ideal. The sun has magical properties that takes away stains in the diapers and (obviously) dries them faster than if you line dry inside. If you choose to machine dry, keep in mind that you are taking away from the eco-friendliness of the diapers. I wish I could say that I line-dry, but it doesn't really work between a tiny laundry area, Minnesota winters and the (DUMB) rule about no outdoor clotheslines at our townhome. Once we move I'll be able to line dry the diapers and will admire the crunchy granola look of it all.

Ugh, dealing with poo. This sounds terrible. How am I supposed to get it off the diaper?
It's really not that bad, I promise. And remember - no blowouts with cloth diapers means you will never have to scrape poop off clothes and/or clean it off your baby's back. The poo situation is why I purchase both flushable liners and the diaper sprayer.

So you can either line the diaper with a flushable liner and then just flush the liner and poo OR you can skip the liner and rinse the poo out of the diaper with the sprayer.

Diaper Sprayer attached to our toilet
Ah, the diaper sprayer. Can I tell you that it makes me a little nervous that my toilet now has a very special spray hose attached to it? I fear guests will think that we require a bidet and then went so far as to install one ourselves. AWKWARD. Friends - I promise...it's for the baby! One thing about the sprayer - it's taken some practice to use it effectively and not...how should I put this?...power spray poop onto the wall. One thing that has helped is to remove all the inserts from the pocket diapers before attempting to spray the poo. Also, I stick the diaper halfway in the toilet water and keep the sprayer pointed down while rinsing it all off. I initially tried to avoid getting the diaper in the toilet bowl water, but it made for a messier situation in the end. So don't be afraid to half-dunk that diaper into the bowl. And I'm really, really sorry for being so descriptive about my baby's poo. Anyone need a refreshing spritz of water on their backside to feel better?

What if I don't have my own washer or I'm too busy to do all that laundry?
A cloth diapering service might be a great option for you. I have two mom friends in the Twin Cities who are using Do Good Diapers and both highly recommend it. And while it's nice to be able to wash them more leisurely throughout the day as a stay-at-home mom, I think a working mom could still find the laundry manageable. The trick would be to stay on top of when one wash cycle ends so you can start the next cycle immediately.

If I cloth diaper, I'd like to use cloth wipes, too. How does that work?
Confession - I've only been using cloth wipes part time. I started out using disposable wipes and just never stopped. However, Bella recently had a bout of diaper rash due to really dry skin so I've been extra cautious about exposing her to anything that might irritate the rash further. You can either spray the cloth wipe with a spray bottle or peri-bottle filled with water and a couple drops of baby shampoo (I use Burt's Bees) or you can fold all the wipes together in a disposable wipes container and add some water to the entire container.

What about when I'm on vacation?
We go with disposables on vacation as I have a hard time using up a bunch of suitcase space for cloth diapers, detergent, etc. when I'm traveling by plane. However, if I ever go somewhere by car that has a washer, then I would certainly consider cloth diapering on that trip.

What about when a baby gets diaper rash? Can I still cloth diaper?
I avoid using diaper creams with my cloth diapers as they can cause absorbency problems. So I either use disposables when using diaper creams or I use a sparing amount of cream and put a liner in the cloth diaper. One good thing, though, is that babies are less prone to diaper rash when cloth diapering, so this situation does not happen too often.

My Husband/Partner is reluctant to cloth diaper. Any thing to convince him/her?
A life without poop spraying up your baby's back. Is that not enough for them? Seriously, though, take some time to calculate the cost of cloth diapering versus using disposables. That should be quite convincing.

[Husband's comment: Overall cost was my primary concern. Once I found out how much we would be spending on disposables over the course of a year as compared to the upfront investment with cloth, and given we're a single income family that hopes to have multiple children, it was hard not to be on board with the cloth diapers. Honestly, each option (cloth or disposable) has a routine and pros and cons. Once you get used to the routine, and decide which one suits you best (for us it was obviously cloth) you just go with the flow...literally and figuratively.]

Be honest: are there cons to cloth diapering?

Yes, there are some downsides, but they are not so bad in my mind. Downsides include poop management, more leaks at night, additional laundry, and some difficulty with fitting clothes over the bulky diapers. None of these things come close to being a deal breaker to me, but it all depends on your own lifestyle and living situation.

Why did you attach a bidet to your toilet? Are you some kind of freak?
Sigh. I knew this would happen. IT'S NOT A BIDET. IT'S FOR THE BABY.

Alright folks, that's all the time we have for today. Any other questions? Comments?

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Phallic Flowers & Other Delights

Bah, winter. As I've talked about before, I suffer from Cold Weather Tourette's. It has been in full effect due to the negative temps and I have opted to stay inside where it's warm, lest I swear up a storm in front of the baby. We have a trip to warmer pastures coming up in early February (cue the theme song to the O.C.), but that's 3 weeks away. I needed to do something today to snap me out of my funk. On a whim, I decided that Bella and I were going to the Conservatory in St. Paul. It's free to the public (although they gladly accept donations) and bizarrely open 365 days a year.

This excursion was exactly what we needed. To help you get a sense of the dreary life we've been living up in Minnesota, just take a look at this outside photo of the Conservatory.Gray. With a side of gray. And some white to mix it up. Makes a person want to, I don't know, maybe REDRUM someone it's so depressing.

Then you get inside and all is right again with the world. You are instantly relaxed and breathing deeper. The humid atmosphere, smells, and sights evoke memories of my trips to India, Honduras, and Mexico and I'm all about reliving vacations. Chicken loved it and her favorite part was probably the ceiling fans. As a mother, it's my job to support her interests, so I made sure to point out each ceiling fan that I saw.
She also liked the fish. Please note the scary fish in the bottom left corner with his HUGE mouth open. Fish make me nervous. Especially the way a tiny goldfish can grow into a bigger fish if you put it in a bigger container. That's not right, yo!

You know what this flower reminds me of?
That's right! Corn on the cob. Exactly what I was thinking.

Flowers? Sexual? What?

Anyway, a good time was had by all and I honestly felt rejuvenated when I left. We plan to make this a regular trip - anyone in the Twin Cities area care to join us next time?

P.S. - If you haven't already, consider making a donation to Haiti. There are so many ways to do it and every little bit helps, right?