More about the little decision of selling the baby things:
I spent a lot of time last week getting ready for a baby& kid consignment sale (appropriately named "The Stuff Sale") and it paid off. We were able to sell all of our big items and almost all of the clothes and smaller items. Thinking I should have charged more! And then on the flip side, I feel like I got some great deals at the sale. I got a ton of cute clothes for the kids, a tricycle with a push handle, a cozy coupe car, a large wooden kitchen for Bella, a Little People dollhouse, a ball popper, plus other assorted toys and puzzles for $200. WOO HOO! Takes care of a lot of clothing and birthday present shopping for me. And I'm crazy excited to play with that kitchen.
More about the big decision of no more kids:
I think I'll do a separate post on this at some point, but maybe not. And the maybe not is because I'm so at peace and comfortable with this decision. I thought it would be something fraught with dilemma and sadness but it's not. I am 99% okay with only having two children. All I can see are benefits - I won't have to sign up for months of puking & pain while pregnant, there won't be any worrying about hemorrhaging again or not having the Rhogam work, no more newborn stage, no more months of sleep deprivation, we will never have to figure out how to parent when the number of kids outweigh the parents, we won't need a huge house or huge car, easier travel, and on and on and on. I am a little bummed that there won't be the excitement of getting pregnant, giving birth, and meeting and getting to know a brand new version of our genetic combo, but once I look past the romance of those things and consider the reality...well, that puts me right back at being just fine with being a family of four. And I can happily experience those things in a one-step-removed sort of way as a aunt (whether actual or honorary) and eventually as a grandma (hopefully). So this is it! A mom, a dad, a girl, and a boy. I love it.
We always said we wanted a big family and then after one we were like...eh maybe we're the "one and done" kind of people. Now I think we're more the..eh I think two will be it. We like the idea of having siblings. There is something strangely exciting (at least in my head) to be able to say with conviction that you're done having children. No more planning around pregnancies or TTC. Something exciting about knowing you're moving on from that chapter in life. I'm so grateful you shared your decision and am so happy that you're at peace with it.
ReplyDeleteCongrats! I hope I will know that easily when we're done as well - I've heard from many people that when you know, you know... and it sounds like that's true for you! You certainly have had your share of difficult times during pregnancy and the baby stage (thrush, waking up, etc) - so I can imagine it feels like a relief to know some of those things are behind you!
ReplyDeleteLove it! I can't imagine we'll go for more than two either. It just works with my brain/lifestyle/goals, etc! I'm 1 of 2 (same sitch, older girl and younger boy) and it was pretty perfect. Congrats!!
ReplyDeleteThanks all. In a way it's almost like my body made the decision for me - I can't imagine going through pregnancy & all again. So I think I've had months to adjust. But yes - there is such relief and excitement to know that this is it!
ReplyDeleteWow! Can I ask what kind of birth control you'll be using? Sorry if that's TMI! I ask because Jason and I are already having the birth control/are we done having kids talk.
ReplyDeleteCrystal - I'm not down for being on any hormonal birth control again. It scares me a little, even though I'm sure it's generally safe. So condoms (Ahhh - feels funny to write that out! haha) and then a little snip-snip surgery for Husband sometime in the future...EEK!
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